Smashing Gender Stereotypes
Job Shadowing: Making One Child Smile at a Time
As cheesy as it sounds, one of the biggest joys of my Peace Corps service is putting a smile on a child’s face. As Justin puts it, it’s very easy to do in Georgia. I consider last two weeks ago a success because I received dozens of smiles, hugs, and kisses from the children in my community. Prior to Peace Corps, I had an awkward stage in life where I did not know what to say to children and sometimes I would walk away by patting them on the head. For me to start off a blog about kids is truly a success and a sign of personal growth- or dare I say, maternal instincts kicking in?!
Two weeks ago, I was given the opportunity to host two wonderful Peace Corps Trainees: Miranda and Rose. Peace Corps Georgia gives trainees an opportunity to job shadow a Peace Corps Volunteer, at their site, so the trainees can gain perspective on a volunteer’s daily life in the community and at their job. On Monday morning, Miranda and Rose had the opportunity to speak with my counterparts. My counterparts informed them about the various work that we do together and the strategic initiatives World Vision and Youth2Georgia work on.
But later, I thought it would also be fun to do an English Club lesson with them at the Day Care Center. If you read my English Club blog post, you would know that my English Club is anything but an English Club. It essentially me attempting to get vulnerable children to sit with me to learn anything. Since the lessons fall apart within 20 minutes, I no longer lesson plan for long activities. So, when Miranda said, “so we should plan for an hour lesson?” I simply looked at her and said, “ha, we are lucky if they sit still for 10 minutes. I think 20 minutes should be sufficient!” So, we planned for a couple of activities and walked to the Day Care Center.
The children were so excited to meet Miranda and Rose. It was the first time I personally brought guests to the Day Care Center. The weather was beautiful, so for the first time ever, we held our activities outdoors. Then, a miracle happened! The children behaved. For. The. First. Time. EVER! Tamta (my Day Care Center counterpart) and I looked at each and were dumbfounded. We have dreamed of this day and when it actually happened, we did not know what to do.
The children literally stayed for the entire duration of our planned activities. Then, they wanted more! They actually wanted more from us. I looked at Rose and Miranda and I was so surprised, “you don’t understand, this has never happened.” So, if you are in need of a miracle, please contact Miranda and Rose- they will be our new official Peace Corps Volunteers in July. They literally have magical powers beyond our imagination. Their magical powers had the kids smiling and laughing. The kids were participating in Simon Says! They were following directions! They craved our attention instead of running away from us!
I’m so sad that I didn’t take any pictures of the event to document this rare miracle. In a sense, that is true Peace Corps. We live for the tiny miracles that occur during our service. The rare glimpse of hope that our work is doing something meaningful. As much as I have struggled with my English Club, last week was a moment I will always cherish.
On Tuesday morning, Justin invited Miranda, Rose, and I to his school. Collectively, we thought it would be a good idea to take advantage of the opportunity to allow the trainees to see another Peace Corps Volunteer’s job as well as mine. However, Justin also had something sinister in mind. He creatively crafted a “spousal revenge” episode of the century. He started off the lesson by giving his third graders questions to ask us. The first question was, “Do you like Star Wars?”
Hmm, that is odd. I see Justin pull out his iPhone to take a video. I knew something was brewing. I choose my words carefully to answer the first question. Then, another third grader asked, “Why don’t you like Star Wars?” Ah-ha! Justin crafted this to publicly shame me in front of his third graders! Why do you ask? Because I refuse to watch Star Wars. I am one of the few Americans who just has no interest in the subject. Justin, on the other hand, has made it his life mission to get me to watch it at least one time in my life (and to enjoy American football). (Sidenote: Justin did get me to play fantasy football, and, while it was totally awesome, it just wasn’t my thing.)
Therefore, be careful who you marry. Their interests might become your interests. After his revenge, we all drew pizzas and hamburgers with the cutest third graders. The children had learned the ingredients for the dishes the week before and this was a creative way for them to review the words for pickles, meat, bread, cheese, etc.
After the class was over, Justin asked us if we would like to stay for the fifth-grade class. At first, I personally felt compelled to return to my job. It was already 10 a.m., but then I saw a bunch of the fifth graders spying on us in the teacher’s lounge. So the three of us thought, “Why not make a bunch of kids happy?” Literally, that is how we decided to stay. At 10:30 a.m., we stood in front of the fifth-grade class introducing ourselves. Justin’s counterpart told the students to ask us questions. All of them were mumbling and laughing. They were so excited that they were nervously giggling and stumbling on their words. The typical questions ensued, such as, “Do you like Georgia?” “Do you like khachapuri?” “Do you like us?” Both younger and older generations ask the same questions, so at this point, I have well-crafted responses to these questions.
Towards the end of the questions, I whispered to Justin, “Do you think they would want a picture with us?” So, Justin asks, “Do you want a picture with our guests?” Never in my life have I seen a bunch of fifth graders get up out of their seats so fast. I thought that Rose, Miranda, and I were going to get trampled. They were so excited and they were all pushing each to be next to one of us. That my friends is what it feels like to be a micro-celebrity. I’m just kidding- we aren’t celebrities. But we do get kids excited when we take pictures with them 😉
Youth Empowerment Summit
This month, my organization, three other Peace Corps Volunteers, and I hosted a Youth Empowerment Summit in Kutaisi, Georgia. In fact, there were three other summits that took place this Spring. It was all inspired by our training last November. Peace Corps held a Training of Trainers (ToT) for 20 Peace Corps Volunteers, selected World Vision staff, and some youth in Tbilisi last November. All the Peace Corps Volunteers that are on official programmatic committees were invited to attend. Since I’m on the Gender Equality committee and partnered with World Vision, I was invited to this training. We learned the importance of clubs and volunteerism. The objective of our training was for us to hold summits for the youth in our communities on how to create and sustain clubs.
During the week-long training, we practiced presenting various topics that might be useful for the youth. Session topics included: leadership skills, collaboration, volunteerism, asset identification, and more. I really appreciated that after our training, Peace Corps provided us with resource books on these topics. Our post also invested in these resources since they also translated the books to Georgian so our counterparts can also take advantage and utilize the books.
The ToT was essentially organized by the regions that the World Vision Georgia offices are located in. Since World Vision works with youth and is a leading non-profit in this field, Peace Corps invited and requested them to be our partnering organization for the summits. As you may recall from this post, our Peace Corps projects are always partnered with the community’s leaders, schools, or organizations. However, my region has so many volunteers, it was decided to split my region into two groups. Thus, that is how we ended up with the four groups.
Thus, for the months leading up to May from November, my small group have been working hard to replicate some of the Training of Trainers elements into a Youth Empowerment Summit. The goal to create and sustain clubs beautifully complements Peace Corps’ and the Ministry of Youth and Sports in Georgia’s. Both the Peace Corps and the Ministry know that when the youth participate in clubs, they are more active citizens. The sense of achievement in clubs could easily bleed into other parts of their lives and help develop skills in the future.
Together with my other Peace Corps Volunteers, we wrote a Let Girls Learn Grant for this project. We focused on developing leadership, communication, and collaboration skills that are needed for club development. We created activities that would identify their assets and their interests in creating a meaningful club. Essentially, we wanted to make sure that the event was fun as well as impactful. In the end, we invited 9 Peace Corps volunteers along with 19 youth to participate in the two-day, two-night summit.
One of the biggest challenges with trainings like these is teaching the creative and critical concepts. I’ve noticed that the youth do not have the language that American youth use- and I’m not talking about the difference between Georgian and English. Georgian youth tend to have a more difficult time understanding certain creative concepts. For example, many of them have a hard time identifying personal assets. They do not grow up in a society that values every little achievement wrapped with “you are so special” cocktail mix.
Most Georgian youth in schools are taught to memorize Georgian poems and recite other facts. There is little room for creative projects that imparts critical thinking. Thus, asking the youth this weekend to “create a sustainable club” was not an easy feat. For many, it was the first time in their lives that they had to truly create something original and not replicate or summarize someone’s else work. Which is why opportunities like these trainings are so important.
Our summit helped some youth to think “outside the box” to create clubs that their peers would enjoy participating. Some of the youth with their respective Peace Corps Volunteers will be implementing their clubs soon. However, most will be creating them for the upcoming school year. Thus, wish them luck on this journey!
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My English Club
- They have six teachers on the payroll, but only two at a time teach together on a given day. The teacher’s schedule rotates and it is not fixed; therefore, setting up the English Club on a given day would mean different teachers each time. At first, I thought having consistency is key to foster the children’s learning.
- None of the teachers speak English. Thus, there would be no translator to co-teach the sessions. However, we mitigated this challenge by having the child psychologist essentially act as my co-teacher and translator. At this time, the child psychologist is the only English speaking staff member at the Day Care Center. This also poses another challenge because most of her work is in the field, therefore, determining the days she is in the center will also be difficult.
- The children’s attendance at the day care center is not consistent. Therefore, it would be impossible to have the lessons build-up on each other since I could not anticipate in advance which child will be attending.
- Some of the children are completely illiterate; therefore, using Georgian as a base language would even be difficult.
- The biggest challenge of all is that almost all of the children are completely uninterested. It has become apparent that keeping them engaged in any activity for an extended period of time is a chore.
- The second biggest challenge is that most of the children have some sort of behavioral problems since they have no structure or regular discipline in their daily lives.
Not a White Savior Complex Program
- Americans: “That is so cool!” Questions range from how long is my service, where I am stationed, what is my primary assignment, etc. They ask specifics since the overwhelming majority of Americans I’ve met understand that we serve in underdeveloped and developing countries around the world.
- Georgians: Conversations go either of two ways. If they have interacted with previous volunteers, they are excited to meet me. I think that Peace Corps is well respected in Georgia and we are valued as members of our community. If they have never met a PCV before, they are confused. How do I speak Georgian? Why do I work in Georgia? Am I seriously not paid? Then, I must be rich if I live here voluntarily! What kind of things do I actually do?
- Foreigners: Many people that I’ve met have not heard of Peace Corps, especially if they are not in the non-profit sectors. I mean, it makes sense. For one, the foreigners I tend to meet typically come from highly developed countries. Peace Corps only operates in developing countries. Also, it is an American program and only American citizens are able to serve. Therefore, unless they are a dual citizen or know someone who is American, our paths don’t typically cross.
We live and breath sustainability. We invest in people and not things. We love training people in skills that they need. We don’t dump money to rebuild infrastructure. No PCV in Georgia will be working on the crumbling soviet union infrastructure. Sure, we might paint a room to spice it up- but that spiced up will be part of a larger and impactful project like a technology room in a public school. Read this section from our Small Grants Handbook regarding Sustainability.
We take integration into the community very seriously. I don’t know of another volunteer program where you train for 3 months to study the local language. Peace Corps wants to provide us with successful tools to become great volunteers. How can we do that if we don’t speak the language? When I speak Georgian in my community, I immediately impress the community members. I definitely earn that respect because I am taking the time to understand them on a deep and cultural level. Most Georgians speak Russian (some fluent, some conversational). Although Russian is more widely spoken than English in the world, we still learn Georgian- because that is the community’s language.
We serve for more than two years. Some people tell me, “I want to make a difference in the world, but two years is too long.” I hate to be that person to disagree, but two years is actually limited. Real change takes real time. Development is slow. I’ve been here for almost a year and I’m still getting things set-up. Trust and real relationships take time. Rome was not built in a day and neither is development. As an outsider, I must earn the trust of my community members first and that can take time.
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Beginning to Plan my Life after Peace Corps
I have not been here a year and life after Peace Corps is a much-debated topic. In fact, it was one of the first questions I received from people when I told them that I joined the Peace Corps! To explain the meaning of life sometimes feels like an easier question to answer than, “What are you planning on doing after Peace Corps?” I’ll admit, I’m also guilty. I’ve asked this question a million times to other volunteers. Mostly because I’m seriously dying to know if anyone else is in the same undecided boat as me.
However, the feeling of being directionless has faded. I’m a better human being now; I’ve evolved. I’m showing promising signs of “adulting” because I currently possess the answer. I’ve wanted to receive my MBA since dinosaurs became extinct. That is a fact and not a hyperbole 😉 Once I found out I could a master’s in business as a kid, I knew that was my future. It was just always a matter of when. That is how I know it is coded in my DNA- this could be because half of my family majored in either business or engineering.
Regardless, Justin and I were discussing what life will hold for us post-PC? Do we work full-time and go to school part-time? Go to school full-time? Or just do the parenthood role full-time for one of us? Then he said the following magical words, “We could probably get more financial aid doing it immediately after Peace Corps because we currently do not receive a salary.” The heavens opened and the angels sang, “You will probably have less debt.” Thus, my friends, we both decided that obtaining a full-time MBA at the same time after Peace Corps is the best answer. Thus, we began planning our next steps after service.
If anyone wants to pursue an MBA, naturally the first step is to study for the GMAT entrance exam. Some universities do not require the GMAT or may accept the GRE as an alternative; however, most of the universities we are researching require the GMAT to apply. One of the benefits of successfully completing service in the Peace Corps is the Coverdell Fellowship. This fellowship allows Returned Peace Corps Volunteers to continue inspiring change in under-served communities through internships, but locally in the United States. It is a Graduate program with over 90 partnering universities that can provide reduced tuition, financial aid, and internship opportunities.
Many of these partnering universities offer application fee waivers too. At this moment, I’m elated that Justin and I get to save so much money by only paying for a couple of schools’ application fees. I’m so grateful for this because it has opened up the opportunity to apply to universities we would not have otherwise. Application fees for MBA programs can be $200 a piece (or more!), thus, I may have only applied to more affordable, less prestigious universities without our fee waivers. Now, I have the opportunity to apply to some of the best universities in the nation. There are other benefits of being a Peace Corps Volunteer, but the Coverdell Fellowship was the most important to me. Read about the other benefits here.
But here is a predicament that other Peace Corps Volunteers may not face: Justin and I want to go to school together. Why is this an issue? Mainly because we both have to get accepted into the same graduate program at the same university so we don’t have a two-year long distance marriage. This is hard as it is, but you also have to consider we are both applying for the Coverdell Fellowship as well at most of these universities.
So in a way, we are competing against each other and all other returned or current Peace Corps Volunteers. Other volunteers are probably not competing against their spouse and some are not worried about having a long distance relationship or marriage. We have done the long-distance relationship for nearly 3 years and neither of us is interested repeating that path again. In fact, our entire engagement was long distance and the better half of our first year of marriage.
Our primary strategy is to apply to at least a dozen universities. The average number of graduate schools that folks apply to is anywhere between 4-6. Thus, doubling that amount will cast a wider net of possibilities. It will increase the odds that both of us will get accepted into the same university of our choice. I e-mailed each Coverdell Partner university and asked them the maximum number of accepted Coverdell Fellows. Any university that only accepted 1 or 2 Returned Peace Corps Volunteer was eliminated. Most of the Coverdell Fellows are located on the East Coast. This also means that attending a university in California (our home state) is slim. So we will most likely be far away from our family and friends again…
Another predicament that we have is studying for the GMAT. In the United States, if money allows, one could attend a GMAT prep course in person or online. The in-person option is obviously not available for me or Justin during the Peace Corps. The online course is also not available unless we have a strong desire to wake up in the middle of the night due to the time difference. The only option for us is to study with books and an online study service. But here is the thing about our internet: it is not always reliable.
In the two weeks that I’ve started studying, the internet has been slow, unpredictable, or just non-existent. When I returned from Tbilisi on Saturday, I wanted to study for the GMAT. Except, I didn’t have electricity, the internet, or water at our apartment. So instead of studying, I was calling my landlord and waiting for my neighbor to help me out. That is my reality. Studying for the GMAT is much harder in a less developed country, with fewer resources, and less financial support.
But let me be honest, the biggest challenge is combating laziness and relearning all the math concepts we forgot. The intermittent internet is more of an annoyance than a true hurdle. Either way, at least for now, Justin and I have a solid plan: study for the GMAT, take the test by the end of summer, begin applying for universities in the Fall, and finally wait for our life to be determined next spring 🙂 And whenever the internet falls short of my expectations, I simply remind myself that at least I have the privilege and the opportunity to even pursue a graduate degree.