My Monthly Tradition: Getting Sick in the Peace Corps

I almost escaped my monthly Peace Corps Service tradition this month. We are just shy of April and my unwelcomed ritual hit me like a ton of bricks. I got sick- again! Like clockwork, I get sick once a month. I was able to skip this awful tradition for a few of the 11 months I’ve been living here. However, about one week per month, I am in bed all day attempting to recover from sort of illness. I get sick so much that even my coworkers and I started joking about it.
In January, right before I got my sinus infection, I made a joke we should make bets on what illness I would contrive next. I imagined a calendar in which people would write the name of a disease and the week I would fall ill. They laughed, but I was half serious. I felt like I had to insert some sort of comic relief into my misery. The calendar didn’t happen, but the discussions continued.In fact, one of my coworkers came up to me last week and said, “Rawan, you have not gotten sick this month.” I replied, “I thought the same thing! But there are a few days left in March, so who knows?” God knows, because a couple of days later, here I am, sick with an undesirable cold.
This cold started just like any other. The first sign was a very sore throat.  It hurt to swallow, regardless of how much liquids I consumed. No amount of tea was alleviating that soreness. On Monday morning, I woke up and I felt completely sick. I didn’t have the energy to get out of bed, so I didn’t. I texted my boss and my main counterpart and told them I wasn’t coming into work. What is wonderful about Georgians is that they actually believe you when you tell them that you are sick. The only thing my boss told me was, “have a speedy recovery and let me know if you need anything.” I’m very lucky that he is compassionate and helpful. Our culture in the United States is not typically so forgiving. We have the tendency to be work-aholics. We work even when are sick and then possibly infecting everyone. I believe that our lack of government protected paid sick leave is to blame.
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I wish I can buy DayQuil….but nope, I can’t drug myself out of a cold.
For example, like many other college students, I worked in restaurants to help pay for my university degree. One day I contracted some sort of stomach flu a couple of hours before my shift. I knew that my boss wouldn’t believe me if I had simply called in sick literally right before my shift. Sure, I would be excused, but I would get “jokes” the next day that I probably just partied too much the night before. So, I had my mother drive me to work since I was too sick to drive. I told her to wait in the car because I knew I would be excused from my shift. Sure enough, the second I walked in, my boss said, “You’re late.” I didn’t even respond, I just ran straight to the bathroom to go puke. When I came out, he apologized and said, “You are sick, that is why you are late.” I nodded and he let me go home. American bosses need hard-core evidence. Because if you can’t work with something mild, then you are weak and not a loyal employee. That simple.
However, the beauty of the Peace Corps is that we don’t have a defined number of sick days in a traditional sense. I’m sure that by now I would have been fired from my job if I got sick like this in America. In the Peace Corps, if you are sick for more than a continuous 45 days, then you may get medically separated. The key word here is “continuous.” So, me getting sick one week out of the month still qualifies me to continue my service. My coworkers are very understanding, because most of the time, I still go to work sick like the American I am. In December, when I got the flu, I walked to work with a fever in the snow. Dumbest mistake ever. If that happens to you, just call in sick. Don’t walk up the snowy hill with a fever. Justin also had the flu at the same time. So fending for ourselves was not fun either. Gosh, I really hated those two weeks.
Tea is my drug. I should just have tea put in an IV at this point because I drink so much of it.
However, it has been difficult. By far, the biggest challenge in the Peace Corps is my immune system. Normally, it functions well in the United States, but apparently, Georgia and my immune system are frien-enemies. Three weeks they are bffs, and one week they hate each other. Let me clear, that one week is brutal. I got food poisoning twice in Georgia, only 6 weeks apart. The first time was in August and the second in early October. I’m not talking about a slight upset stomach, here. I’m talking about where I have a slight fever, curled up in the fetal position, moaning in extreme pain, and can’t eat anything or hold anything for FIVE DAYS. I literally treated myself to a “steak” (it was a piece of meat really, but to me it was a steak) to celebrate when the episode was over.
Regardless, I sick so often now and it has become a fear. If anyone coughs in my general direction, my first thought is “get the hell away from  me.” Why? Because I have $hit to do and I don’t feel like being out cold for a week. I also thought to myself, “Am I the only one like this?” Well, the answer is a mixture between yes and no. Some volunteers have had it worse. Some volunteers haven’t even gotten sick. However, a few had similar experiences. A couple of them told me that their first year of service was full of illnesses, but the second year was healthier.  In my imagination, once I hit the one year mark, I will be rid of all illnesses and I will be healthy! Logically, I know this is hard to predict, but I don’t care. I need some glimmer of hope. I need a slice of faith.

Beginning to Plan my Life after Peace Corps

I have not been here a year and life after Peace Corps is a much-debated topic. In fact, it was one of the first questions I received from people when I told them that I joined the Peace Corps! To explain the meaning of life sometimes feels like an easier question to answer than, “What are you planning on doing after Peace Corps?” I’ll admit, I’m also guilty. I’ve asked this question a million times to other volunteers. Mostly because I’m seriously dying to know if anyone else is in the same undecided boat as me. 

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I don’t know! Why are you asking about my future plans?!

However, the feeling of being directionless has faded. I’m a better human being now; I’ve evolved. I’m showing promising signs of “adulting” because I currently possess the answer. I’ve wanted to receive my MBA since dinosaurs became extinct. That is a fact and not a hyperbole 😉 Once I found out I could a master’s in business as a kid, I knew that was my future. It was just always a matter of when. That is how I know it is coded in my DNA- this could be because half of my family majored in either business or engineering. 

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Exhibiting signs of adulting since I know what we are doing after PC

Regardless, Justin and I were discussing what life will hold for us post-PC? Do we work full-time and go to school part-time? Go to school full-time? Or just do the parenthood role full-time for one of us? Then he said the following magical words, “We could probably get more financial aid doing it immediately after Peace Corps because we currently do not receive a salary.” The heavens opened and the angels sang, “You will probably have less debt.” Thus, my friends, we both decided that obtaining a full-time MBA at the same time after Peace Corps is the best answer. Thus, we began planning our next steps after service. 

If anyone wants to pursue an MBA, naturally the first step is to study for the GMAT entrance exam. Some universities do not require the GMAT or may accept the GRE as an alternative; however, most of the universities we are researching require the GMAT to apply. One of the benefits of successfully completing service in the Peace Corps is the Coverdell Fellowship. This fellowship allows Returned Peace Corps Volunteers to continue inspiring change in under-served communities through internships, but locally in the United States. It is a Graduate program with over 90 partnering universities that can provide reduced tuition, financial aid, and internship opportunities. 

Many of these partnering universities offer application fee waivers too. At this moment, I’m elated that Justin and I get to save so much money by only paying for a couple of schools’ application fees. I’m so grateful for this because it has opened up the opportunity to apply to universities we would not have otherwise. Application fees for MBA programs can be $200 a piece (or more!), thus, I may have only applied to more affordable, less prestigious universities without our fee waivers. Now, I have the opportunity to apply to some of the best universities in the nation. There are other benefits of being a Peace Corps Volunteer, but the Coverdell Fellowship was the most important to me. Read about the other benefits here.

But here is a predicament that other Peace Corps Volunteers may not face: Justin and I want to go to school together. Why is this an issue? Mainly because we both have to get accepted into the same graduate program at the same university so we don’t have a two-year long distance marriage. This is hard as it is, but you also have to consider we are both applying for the Coverdell Fellowship as well at most of these universities.

So in a way, we are competing against each other and all other returned or current Peace Corps Volunteers. Other volunteers are probably not competing against their spouse and some are not worried about having a long distance relationship or marriage. We have done the long-distance relationship for nearly 3 years and neither of us is interested repeating that path again. In fact, our entire engagement was long distance and the better half of our first year of marriage. 

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Our new mantra: I’ll go wherever you will go. The question is: but where?

Our primary strategy is to apply to at least a dozen universities. The average number of graduate schools that folks apply to is anywhere between 4-6. Thus, doubling that amount will cast a wider net of possibilities. It will increase the odds that both of us will get accepted into the same university of our choice. I e-mailed each Coverdell Partner university and asked them the maximum number of accepted Coverdell Fellows. Any university that only accepted 1 or 2 Returned Peace Corps Volunteer was eliminated. Most of the Coverdell Fellows are located on the East Coast. This also means that attending a university in California (our home state) is slim. So we will most likely be far away from our family and friends again… 

Another predicament that we have is studying for the GMAT. In the United States, if money allows, one could attend a GMAT prep course in person or online. The in-person option is obviously not available for me or Justin during the Peace Corps. The online course is also not available unless we have a strong desire to wake up in the middle of the night due to the time difference. The only option for us is to study with books and an online study service. But here is the thing about our internet: it is not always reliable.

In the two weeks that I’ve started studying, the internet has been slow, unpredictable, or just non-existent. When I returned from Tbilisi on Saturday, I wanted to study for the GMAT. Except, I didn’t have electricity, the internet, or water at our apartment. So instead of studying, I was calling my landlord and waiting for my neighbor to help me out. That is my reality. Studying for the GMAT is much harder in a less developed country, with fewer resources, and less financial support. 

But let me be honest, the biggest challenge is combating laziness and relearning all the math concepts we forgot. The intermittent internet is more of an annoyance than a true hurdle. Either way, at least for now, Justin and I have a solid plan: study for the GMAT, take the test by the end of summer, begin applying for universities in the Fall, and finally wait for our life to be determined next spring 🙂 And whenever the internet falls short of my expectations, I simply remind myself that at least I have the privilege and the opportunity to even pursue a graduate degree. 

My Great Uncle Visits Me in Georgia!

This past weekend, it became apparent where I got my adventurous side. Apparently, I have a genetic disposition for travel and adventure. A lot of people were curious how my parents and extended family reacted when I told them I quit my job and joined the Peace Corps. If you were curious, they were not surprised at all and were extremely supportive. It is probably because they have all done something similar in their lives (the packing up their current lives and doing something very different elsewhere). The adventurous gene runs deep in so many family members. Take for instance what happened this weekend when my great-uncle made a spontaneous decision to come and visit me.
My maternal grandmother called me last week and informed me that my great-uncle (her brother-in-law) was coming to Georgia. When do you ask? Just a few days later. She called me on Monday night to inform me that he is arriving that Thursday night. My great-uncle is 81 years old and he decided to take a spontaneous trip to see me. He does not use Facebook or the internet much in general. He also speaks little English. The only thing he told my Grama was that he will be arriving Thursday and leaving Sunday in and out from Tbilisi. I literally had no idea if he was traveling alone or not, the hotel he was staying in, the time of arrival/departure ….practically nothing. I also had no idea how I would contact him once he arrived in-country.
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Standing on the platform waiting for the train to arrive to leave to Tbilisi. I learned that this is my preferred method of travel. 
Luckily, I was going to Tbilisi that weekend anyway. I’m on the Small Project Assistance (SPA) committee, where 5 other PCVs and I review and recommend Peace Corps grants for funding from USAID. Our SPA meeting was on Friday morning, so I was going to travel to Tbilisi from my site on Thursday morning. I had a presentation to give on Saturday morning with other volunteers, but my friends were very understanding when I canceled to spend time with my uncle instead. I was so excited to show him around town and simply spend time with family. I had given my grandmother my phone number to give to him, so I was hoping he could reach me easily that way.
However, life had another plan. On Friday morning, before my SPA meeting, my uncle gives me a call. He is a man of few words when it comes to the phone. He told me that he was in Batumi and not in Tbilisi! Confused, I had no idea why he was in Batumi. All I know is that he took a cab to get to the hotel. Mind you, Batumi is a 7-hour bus (marshutka) ride and a 5-hour fast train ride from Tbilisi. I just kept on thinking why would he do that??? And it must have cost an arm and a leg to get there by private cab!
I asked if he could come to Tbilisi on Saturday and he said no. He said, “So I guess we can’t see each other?” And I responded, “No, uncle, I will figure out a way. I can take the fast train to Batumi because I want to see you.” Instead of being simply excited, I was now excited and worried. How did he take a cab? How is he managing? He speaks little English and can’t walk well. Luckily enough, he told me the hotel he was staying at in Batumi.
I was with a lot of Peace Corps Volunteers Thursday and Friday night, so the topic of my uncle’s visit became was a great topic of discussion thanks to me. I told them that I was confused how he ended up in Batumi when I was told he would be in Tbilisi. We were joking how rare it is to have family visit you…and on top of that, chase them halfway across the country! Nevertheless, I was worried that the train tickets were also sold out. I really didn’t want to be on marshutka for nearly 7 or 8 hours.
Some of my friends kept on joking that by the time I’d reach Batumi, he would be back in Tbilisi. Gratefully, I was able to buy a train ticket online. After I bought the ticket, I called him to let him know. He didn’t pick up his cell phone. So hours later, I called him back and was able to get a hold of him. The phone cut out after I told him that I would arrive at 1:00 p.m. At least he knew what time I was arriving?!
I woke up at 6:00 a.m. and was in a taxi by 6:45 to the train station the next morning. Once I arrived in Batumi at 1 p.m., I took a cab to the hotel he was staying at. I saw my great-uncle sitting in a chair in the lobby waiting for me. We greeted each other happily. He told me that he was so scared of not hearing the phone ring, that he sat in the lobby for a while holding his cell phone in his hand to make sure I’d arrive okay. Literally, sweetest old man alive. Justin was not with me in Tbilisi, so he was coming from our site a few hours away by marshutka.
While we were waiting for Justin, he explained to me that he never actually arrived in Tbilisi. Apparently, the Georgian tourist board and the tourist board in his country struck a deal together. It was a free flight and a cheap deal at the hotel if you fly in to gamble. He heard about the cheap deal and booked himself on the plane. He didn’t really pay attention to the details at all. He just heard of this deal, knew I lived in Georgia, and hopped on a plane.
So that abovementioned cab ride he took, was from the Batumi airport with the rest of tourist group. So even though he didn’t travel with anyone specifically, he wasn’t alone. I was so relieved to hear that he was taken care of. Georgia is not an easy country to navigate on your own as a tourist if you don’t speak Russian or Georgian. Also, everything else started making sense as to why he is in Batumi.
Family Lunch
Having Lunch with my great-uncle in Batumi!
When Justin arrived, we enjoyed lunch together. We went back to the hotel/casino after lunch and watched my uncle play Roulette for a while. Then we grabbed dinner at an amazing seafood restaurant. I would speak to my uncle in our native language, Justin in English, and the waitress in Georgian. I’m not going to lie to you, speaking three languages at the same time made my head spin. But it was so much fun showing my uncle my Georgian skills. My uncle ordered so much food, so typical of my family to stuff ourselves. The food was really delicious and I really enjoyed having dinner as a family for the first time in nearly a year.
Family Time
Playing electronic Roulette with my uncle at the hotel-casino where we were spending the night
The spoiling didn’t stop, he got Justin and me a room at the hotel. He didn’t want to trouble us to grab a marshutka late at night to make it back to site. My uncle was so generous and so sweet. So we had breakfast the next morning together, gambled with him some more, and then parted ways. It was difficult for me to say goodbye. I don’t think I realized at that moment how much I missed being around family. I’ve lived away from home for so many years, but I’ve always made visits. These 10 months has been the longest that I haven’t seen a single blood family relative.
There aren’t many times in life you can appreciate the moment you live in, but I was cherishing every moment with my uncle while it was happening. Now it is just a once-in-a-lifetime memory. I also hope that when I’m 81, I can still be as adventurous as my uncle.